Below are some easy and fun Marriage Advice Tips. Enjoy!
1. Act like you are on the same team- Assume he/she is on your side, not against you. Give your partner the benefit of a doubt.
2. Ask about what he/she likes ‘sexually’ and ‘in the bedroom’
3. Ask each other questions – deep probing questions. Ask more questions – light hearted fun questions
4. Ask what they have on their agenda for the day, the week, the month
5. Be a visionary in your relationship – dream about your future and talk about it
6. Be more passionate at home, not just at work. Bring home your passion, not just negativity
7. Be passionate in your communication with each other (that doesn’t have to mean yelling)
8. Be authentic with your partner
9. Build them up
10. Call each other during the day for no reason
11. Catch them doing something well, then compliment them on it (Encourage Your Spouse!)
12. Clean up the house without them asking
13. Find someplace to volunteer that you would enjoy serving in together
14. Find little pockets of time to spend together
15. Comment on how good they look!
16. Comment on the new clothing or a new hairstyle
17. Dance at restaurants and/or at the end credits of a movie. Take dance lessons.
18. Don’t jump to conclusions or assume they mean the worst
19. Flirt with each other publicly
20. Get a babysitter
21. Give a little bit more in the relationship
22. Give them a compliment in public
23. Go back to the first place you had a date
24. Go have coffee
25. Go shopping together and engage in the experience
26. Go to a park and swing with each other, hold hands and walk around.
27. Have Sex – once a week at least- even if you have to schedule it. Have Sex – Kitchen, couch, bedroom, – its your house! The more you are intimate, the more connected you are with your spouse
28. Hold hands and touch each other.
29 Jump on him when he gets home
30. Forgive easily and quickly
31. Ladies – be elusive and mysterious for him – keep him guessing a bit
32. Take up a hobby and/or Lead a project together
33. Listen to a marriage video or attend a workshop Together!
34.Love them into the future (think the best about them)
35. Make decisions together
36. Make her dinner and then offer to do the dishes then massage her feet
37. Make the bedroom off limits to kids
38. Massages – Both Non sexual and Sexual. This is important for the wife to know that you enjoy being with her without always having sex.
39. Never embarrass or put them down in public
40. Never forget to keep learning about them
41. Never introduce them as “My old lady”, “The Ball and Chain”, “Stupid”, “Fatso”
42. Notice little things and say something positive
43. Open up about something that scares you, excites you and/or has hurt you
44. Pay attention to their dislikes and likes
45. Play easy to get…and be uninhibited in the bedroom and Play hard to get…but then be uninhibited in the bedroom
46. Read a book together
47. REMEMBER that they are your spouse
48. Remember the things that you fell in love with in the first place
49. Remember they have infinite souls and that you aren’t done getting to know them
50. Remember your spouse is a sensual sexual being
51. Respect them as a person
52. Send IMs to each other during the day
53. Serve them
54. Set a time to talk to each other after the kids are in bed. Make it a habit. SCHEDULE it
55. Show her how you like to be touched. Show him how you like to be touched
56. Sleep Holding hands. Sleep touching a part of your spouse
57. Slow down. Be more present with your partner.
58. Stop being a workaholic. Stop working at 9 pm (if you are work at home parents)
59. Talk about work with your spouse
60. Talk about your favorite tv show together
61. Talk about your marriage 5, 10 and 20 years down the road
62. Talk well to them
63. Tease one another sexually
64. Tell each other your dreams, desires and fantasies.
65. Tell him/her she looks terrific
66. Tell him/her something from Childhood that she doesn’t know
67. Tell him/her what you like. Tell him gently what you don’t like, better yet…
68. Show Him
69. Tell him he is amazing and you respect him
70. Tell him something from Childhood that he doesn’t know
71. Treat them how you would like to be treated
72. Turn off the computer, iPod, radio and TV to have more intimate time together.
73. Watch your favorite TV show together
74. Write a letter to him/her
75.Write a story together
These tips are from John Gottman, PH.D’s book “The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work”.
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