Is your once fun marriage getting a little boring or might be missing something? Maybe you need a little more fun! Couples who know how to play and have fun together develop a bonding that can carry them through the most difficult of times.
Many couples work too hard to really enjoy their life together. They feel that if they aren’t doing something useful, they are wasting time. With the busy schedules that families have today, you need to remember to schedule time for fun. Schedule a “date night,” each week to have fun and relax with your partner. Mark it on your calendar. When people have been married longer, they just become boring at times. It’s not that they mean to get boring, it’s just that they haven’t intentionally figured out what would be something fun to do.
If you want to avoid relationship boredom, then try something new to create a fun marriage. Take turns choosing what activity they will do on their date. When it is her turn to choose, he must do whatever she suggests. The next time they go out, he chooses the activity. Often, the friendships that spouses bring into the marriage are the relationships they have had with their single friends. Although there is nothing wrong with single friends they often don’t share your “marriage” mentality or interests. Make sure that they don’t inadvertently pull you away from your spouse rather than encourage the relationship.
From time to time loan out the kids, another advantage of developing friendships with other couples, especially if you both have kids, is that when you and your spouse do want a night alone, you can turn to your friends for your babysitting needs. Then, when they want a night out, you can offer to do the same for them.
Many couples think they can’t afford to have fun, but they don’t have to spend a lot of money to enjoy time together. Anything can be fun. One of the easiest things to do is to say we’re going to get a DVD tonight, and then we are going to fix some popcorn and cuddle up on the couch to have an in-house date. Or take a trip to the beach and make a picnic.
The fun marriage begins at home; begin each day by physically touching your spouse with hugs and kisses. Hold hands while sharing a cup of coffee or tea together; place your hand on your spouse’s leg while sitting together watching TV; gently caress your spouse’ face and say “You’re so beautiful, I love you”. Physical touch is very important in creating romantic atmosphere in the home, so when you arrive home from work be sure to hug and kiss your spouse, and continue physically touching each other throughout the evening.
